Comments on: the 9th habit http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/ It's Cool to be Kind Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:10:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.3 by: Andrea http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-5171 Wed, 18 Apr 2007 02:40:53 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-5171 Smiles Don't Clash. Wake up and smile, smile before you answer the phone you will hear it in your voice. Smile before you fall asleep at night Be happy for what you have ..and always see the glass as being half full Test this theory, when you are walking make eye contact with a person who is not smiling, give them a warm smile....I bet they will smile right back at yeah.. Cheers.. Smiles Don’t Clash.

Wake up and smile,
smile before you answer the phone you will hear it in your voice.
Smile before you fall asleep at night
Be happy for what you have ..and always see the glass as being half full

Test this theory, when you are walking make eye contact with a person who is not smiling, give them a warm smile….I bet they will smile right back at yeah..
Cheers..

]]> by: Jett http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-4397 Fri, 23 Mar 2007 17:03:54 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-4397 I think if you find somebody who reacts to you in an unkind way or who is just rude, the best thing to do is smile at them (be genuine) or if it's someone you know reach for their hand. This may help soften them a little and see that not everybody's reaction to them is one of unkindness. Surprise them and throw them off balance a little by just being nice. (some people just need a BIG push!) :~} best to you, stacy Jett I think if you find somebody who reacts to you in an unkind way or who is just rude, the best thing to do is smile at them (be genuine) or if it’s someone you know reach for their hand. This may help soften them a little and see that not everybody’s reaction to them is one of unkindness. Surprise them and throw them off balance a little by just being nice. (some people just need a BIG push!) :~}
best to you,
stacy Jett

]]> by: Cathy http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-3768 Wed, 21 Feb 2007 11:50:44 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-3768 Hello Donna, I just came across your entry while I was doing a little research. I am a high school counselor and I was writing an article on kindness. It seems to be a dying character trait. But wanted to comment on your entry. Being pretty old myself and working with my aging parents; I can tell you that many of the people who retire in Florida do not have Strong family ties. They are sort of their own breed. They didn't have strong ties to their community, church, or family. They are usually lonely people and spend their life in small retired communities of like individuals. I don't know if you are a praying person; but this group of people probably need your kindness more then ever. Most likely it started in childhood and they just never had the opportunity to learn there was a better life. They were probably busy saving their money for a great retirement instead of spending that extrat time in community, church and family activiites. Hello Donna, I just came across your entry while I was doing a little research. I am a high school counselor and I was writing an article on kindness. It seems to be a dying character trait. But wanted to comment on your entry. Being pretty old myself and working with my aging parents; I can tell you that many of the people who retire in Florida do not have Strong family ties. They are sort of their own breed. They didn’t have strong ties to their community, church, or family. They are usually lonely people and spend their life in small retired communities of like individuals. I don’t know if you are a praying person; but this group of people probably need your kindness more then ever. Most likely it started in childhood and they just never had the opportunity to learn there was a better life. They were probably busy saving their money for a great retirement instead of spending that extrat time in community, church and family activiites.

]]> by: Donna http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-3698 Thu, 15 Feb 2007 23:17:53 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-3698 Hi, How do you get out of a rut when the community that you live in is surrounded by nasty, unkind ppl? I live in a retirement area in S. FL and the 'retirees' are not very nice at all...at the grocery store, gas station lines, bank, restaurants, you name it. So, I am surrounded by not nice people and as a result, I have become sort of like them. I never say 'hi' or go out of my way to help them...as I don't get it from them. When I DO say 'hi' or open the door, I get NO response back. Not even a 'thank you'. Any advice for me? I DO want to be a kinder person! I am one innately, it's just buried inside due to my enviroment! Thanks. Hi,
How do you get out of a rut when the community that you live in is surrounded by nasty, unkind ppl? I live in a retirement area in S. FL and the ‘retirees’ are not very nice at all…at the grocery store, gas station lines, bank, restaurants, you name it. So, I am surrounded by not nice people and as a result, I have become sort of like them. I never say ‘hi’ or go out of my way to help them…as I don’t get it from them. When I DO say ‘hi’ or open the door, I get NO response back. Not even a ‘thank you’. Any advice for me?

I DO want to be a kinder person! I am one innately, it’s just buried inside due to my enviroment!

Thanks.

]]> by: Lisa-Holly http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-2533 Wed, 27 Dec 2006 02:20:03 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-2533 I came across this site at a very interesting(for lack of a better word)in my life. I too believe in everything you believe in. I tend to go on, all I'm going to say right now is Thank You & just keep believing! Happy New Year! May 2007 bring only good things! Lisa-Holly I came across this site at a very interesting(for lack of a better word)in my life. I too believe in everything you believe in. I tend to go on, all I’m going to say right now is Thank You & just keep believing! Happy New Year! May 2007 bring only good things! Lisa-Holly

]]> by: Jo Dawson http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-544 Tue, 07 Nov 2006 21:42:22 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-544 I am so happy to come across this site and your GOOD works. Acts of kindness are incredible moments of our lives. There is nothing more satisfying or rewarding than when you extend yourself unselfishly and unconditionally to another. Its instantaneous for both you and the other person. It's mututally gratifying and if practiced often can literally shift the consciousness of your life and enrich your life experience. Sometimes its as brief as a smile. Volunteering is a Discipline for Kindness. Its a commitment to give of yourself and when done with this type of intention is an awesome experience. I invite anyone interested in commiting acts of kindness with the elderly to contact me at the Hugs for Health Foundation and Help Make A Difference One Hug At A Time! Hugs to You- Jo D I am so happy to come across this site and your GOOD works. Acts of kindness are incredible moments of our lives. There is nothing more satisfying or rewarding than when you extend yourself unselfishly and unconditionally to another. Its instantaneous for both you and the other person. It’s mututally gratifying and if practiced often can literally shift the consciousness of your life and enrich your life experience. Sometimes its as brief as a smile. Volunteering is a Discipline for Kindness. Its a commitment to give of yourself and when done with this type of intention is an awesome experience.

I invite anyone interested in commiting acts of kindness with the elderly to contact me at the Hugs for Health Foundation and Help Make A Difference One Hug At A Time!

Hugs to You-
Jo D

]]> by: micqualyn http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-428 Thu, 28 Sep 2006 00:26:20 +0000 http://blogs.yoursole.com/kcrew/2006/07/19/the-9th-habit/#comment-428 Discipline of Kindness - I like it. I have a grumpy/sadness strategy - It goes like this: when I'm feeling grumpy or sad I encourage 3 people and by the time I've sent an email, card or phone message I'm usually not grumpy or sad anymore. You are right about developing a healthier view of life, sometimes we can get so unsettled by the news or things we see other people doing that we let it have a negative impact on our thoughts. I find focusing on a virtue each day and heading out into my day with the intention to brighten someone else's day really makes my day good. It's like what I intend happens in my life. Often the best way to "push" others into kindness is being kind first or setting the example. One thing I'm finding in my life is that I have to be willing to let others be kind to me (often by lending a helping hand) and I encourage all those kindness souls to allow others to be kind to you too. Giving is good, very good - receiving is good too. Discipline of Kindness - I like it.
I have a grumpy/sadness strategy - It goes like this: when I’m feeling grumpy or sad I encourage 3 people and by the time I’ve sent an email, card or phone message I’m usually not grumpy or sad anymore.

You are right about developing a healthier view of life, sometimes we can get so unsettled by the news or things we see other people doing that we let it have a negative impact on our thoughts.
I find focusing on a virtue each day and heading out into my day with the intention to brighten someone else’s day really makes my day good. It’s like what I intend happens in my life.

Often the best way to “push” others into kindness is being kind first or setting the example.

One thing I’m finding in my life is that I have to be willing to let others be kind to me (often by lending a helping hand) and I encourage all those kindness souls to allow others to be kind to you too. Giving is good, very good - receiving is good too.

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